We are a happily married couple looking to expand into the polyamory realm (although the occasional swing isn't out of the question). We are primarily interested in bringing in a woman who can be a sexual partner to him and a good friend to her. [COLOR blue]She is willing to actively share him -- with or without being present. She isn't really bi and wouldn't necessarily seek out contact with a woman, but is open to it -- especially receiving it -- with the right woman if it occurs as part of the larger picture in an encounter (e.g. while both women are pleasing him). She very much enjoys giving oral. And while she enjoys receiving oral, she would much rather have something inside her. [/COLOR] [COLOR red]He enjoys giving and receiving oral sex, fingering, and pretty much everything else. He is very creative and imaginative in bed and would really love someone who is the same. He really enjoys anal so a woman that does it (and even enjoys it!) would be especially nice. However, it's not a requirement. A little light bondage -- for pleasure rather than pain -- is fun too! [/COLOR] We are both intelligent and educated, but very relaxed and fun-loving. While we are professional, we are anything but stuffy and boring. We have reasonably flexible schedules that enable us to travel a lot. We like wine, movies, a huge variety of music, games, or just good conversation. However, due to our professional positions, please understand that we need to stay discrete and will proceed a little more cautiously when initially meeting people. Our are adults in their 20s with all but one of them out of the house. Therefore there are very little issues with scheduling or privacy. [COLOR blue]She has wavy red hair down past her shoulders with beautiful blue eyes. She looks startlingly good -- so much so that she actually still gets carded at bars and even at the grocery store! She's pale in that "Irish redhead" sort of way (although thankfully she hasn't burst into flame in the sunlight yet). She is 36B with a somewhat trim waist and a cute, but not flat butt. She usually stays shaved clean. Sexually, she is open to many things. She is multi-orgasmic (usually, they come in 3s).[/COLOR] [COLOR red]He has short brown hair with some gray, blue eyes, and a few extra pounds in the middle. He also stays completely shaved -- face, chest, back, and in the action zone. While he hasn't bothered to put a tape measure to it since for about 35 years, the assumption is that he's about as average sized as they come - both length and width. (He's also cut for what it's worth.) Sexually, he is patient and attentive and can go for quite some time.[/COLOR] We have known each other for 30 years, dated for 20, and been married for 15. It is the 2nd marriage for both of us. [COLOR red]He has had plenty of sex partners in his life[/COLOR]; [COLOR blue]she has had only 3 (a boyfriend and the 2 husbands). That doesn't mean that she is inexperienced or naive, though! She can be very creative and passionate! [/COLOR] We have been talking about polyamory and/or swinging since the beginning of our relationship. However, between s, business, and just general "life", we haven't moved into the lifestyle. To be honest, our relationship has been good enough that it wasn't all that important. We are now at the point where we decided to approach the subject once again and see if adding this facet to our relationship adds some fun, mystery, excitement, and companionship.

My Ideal Person For now, we are mostly looking for a woman only although we are open to couples.

That said, we would love to have a woman who is intelligent, funny, kind, and sincere. Ultimately, we would love if a relationship were to become a polyamorous one -- either with the woman living with us or not. (We are fairly well off and have the room for someone to move in.) At that point, the woman would be a friend and companion to the wife and a friend and lover to the husband. (Not that we aren't planning on having all 3 people in bed together fairly often!) This isn't necessarily a requirement, though. Having a "FWB" style relationship is fine as well -- especially initially as we get to all know each other. (If you are familiar with the 80's poly movie classic, "Summer Lovers", you know what we are getting at.)

Listed below are physical preferences -- none of them are deal-breakers, however.

We prefer HWP (or thinner) but would be open to someone outside that description. He also likes smaller breasts (A or B ) and a medium sized butt. He's a big fan of redheads or blondes -- especially with lighter skin. Would prefer if the woman was clean shaven -- or at least clean in the "business zone".

As mentioned, he's really desires anal play/anal sex and we would prefer someone for whom this was no only OK, but pleasurable. (Bonus points if the woman is anally orgasmic!)

She doesn't have to be bi-sexual since this isn't a requirement for the wife, but being open to it certainly helps in case things drift that way.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Physical attraction, Ability to be discreet

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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